• Home
  • Blog
  • Contact Me
  • Location and Fees
  • About
  • Resources
TAMERA SCHREUR, MA, L.M.F.T.

More sadness...

4/16/2013

 
Picture
It's hard, ever so hard, to wrap our minds around tragedy.  Especially senseless mean tragedy, like what happened yesterday at the Boston Marathon Finish Line.  
Just at the point of triumph, just at the point of exhaustion, just at the point of reunion with loved ones, bombs exploded.  Bombs hit, hurt, and killed.  
The deaths and injury are terrible and sad.  My heart goes out to the victims and the families of victims.  When something like this happens, there is so much hurt, so much pain.  The victims, of course, are hurt in the most horrific ways.  I can't begin to really comprehend what it must be like for the injured today.

I was safely home in New York.  Relaxing and stretching, actually, after my own run, albeit only a 5K.  As soon as I found out about Boston, my heart started hurting, aching in outrage and sorrow.

I think there's hurt all round, for all of us who are hear about this type of violence, no matter where we live.

  • I'm wondering what else could happen.  What else might happen.
  • I'm hurting for those who were hurt.
  • I'm feeling angry.  I'm trying not to hate.
  • I'm feeling afraid.
  • I'm feeling concerned especially for children who hear about this, another killing.  Another killing where a child dies.
  • I'm feeling confused, I just don't understand how someone could choose to do something like this.
  • I'm also feeling grateful, in a strange almost guilty way, that it didn't happen to me or to my family members.  I take this abit personal, my sister was going to run, but didn't.  I'm glad I could call her right up and hear her voice on the other side, safe.


I'm feeling all these things, and I wonder if you are too...

I'm a mental health professional and it's hard for me to put this all together, to get past this, to figure out what to say.  It will take time. I reminded myself to take extra care of myself today, to be gentle with myself, because this kind of thing shakes me up.  I remind you to try to do the same.

And, if you are parenting, keep your young children away from the news, especially any that includes video or photographs.  Let them be kids and know as little as possible.    So, turn the television off when they are around.  We can get traumatized in a secondary way from hearing about tragedies, and this is something we can choose to avoid.

Today and throughout this week, I'm going to be deliberate in reaching out to others, even in small ways, to share comfort, and to get comfort myself.  A smile here, a hug there, a conversation and kindness here and there.  

It's a powerful way to stand up to violence. 

It will also honor the victims of Boston.

 I invite you to join me in doing so.








term papers sale link
1/12/2016 07:08:45 pm

It was a horrible tragedy.


Comments are closed.

    Author

    Musings on life and relationships from
    Family Therapist
    Tamera Schreur



    Archives

    February 2020
    January 2020
    January 2019
    July 2018
    June 2018
    February 2018
    March 2016
    February 2016
    August 2015
    March 2015
    December 2014
    October 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    April 2014
    February 2014
    October 2013
    August 2013
    July 2013
    June 2013
    May 2013
    April 2013
    March 2013
    January 2013
    September 2012
    August 2012
    May 2012
    April 2012
    March 2012
    February 2012
    January 2012
    December 2011
    November 2011
    October 2011
    September 2011
    August 2011
    July 2011
    June 2011
    May 2011
    April 2011
    March 2011
    February 2011

    Categories

    All
    Abuse
    Adjustment
    Aging
    Anniversary
    Anxiety
    Balance
    Belonging
    Bi-polar
    Celebrate
    Celebrations
    Change
    Children
    College
    Communication
    Community
    Coping
    Counseling
    Couples
    Creativity
    Danger
    Delight
    Determination
    Differences
    Emotions
    Ethics
    Exercise
    Family
    Family Traditions
    Feelings
    Festivals
    Focus
    Food
    Friendship
    Gardening Victory
    Goals
    Gratefulness
    Gratitude
    Habits
    Healing
    Holidays
    Hopefulness
    Inspiration
    Intimacy
    Joy
    Kindness
    Laughter
    Living Intentionally
    Loss
    Love
    Marriage
    Mealtimes
    Memorial
    Mental Health Awareness
    Mindfulness
    Mood
    Moods
    Natural Disaster
    Newborn
    Parenting
    Passion
    Patriotism
    Play
    Pregnancy
    Premarital Counseling
    Prenatal
    Preschool
    Priorities
    Recovery
    Relaxation
    Relaxing
    Resilience
    Routines
    Sadness
    School
    Screen Time
    Solutions
    Spring
    Stress
    Success
    Suicide
    Suicide Prevention
    Support
    Talking
    Teens
    Television
    Thankfulness
    Transitions
    Trauma
    Tributes
    Vacation
    Valentine
    Veteran Services
    Volunteering
    Wedding
    Worry
    Young Adults

    RSS Feed

Call 914.874.1064 for an appointment